Last update: 2007-09-28 - Ask a Stupid Question Day (really, look it up)
I do not ask for, nor do I require, acceptance by anyone. I put this information here for YOU, so that if you wish to understand and accept me, you may have some help.
I am a 28-year-old dominant male. I'm into the BDSM lifestyle. I am a dominant, sexual creature. It's part of me, it's part of what I do. I also am polyamorous, and into swinging. I'm just a bundle of alternative sexualities, I know. However, I will respect consent, and will not do anything without consent. I also do not force my lifestyles onto others.
I am currently single. Even when I'm not, I usually have open relationships. I find monogamy to be too limiting. This doesn't make me a bad guy though. I have good relationships with women, just not exclusive ones. I'm polyamorous. I believe in many kinds of love and I don't think that only having sex with one person makes sense if one loves many people. Also, I don't need to be in love with someone to have a respectful sexual relationship with them, and having sex with various people outside of my primary relationships doesn't take anything away from them. I love most people to varying degrees (not all sexual, of course).
Speaking of... I love women. I find most women attractive, unless her name is Marie Laveau. That probably includes you, or your sister, or your girlfriend, or your wife, but not your mom. If this causes you or your boyfriend to be jealous, then someone needs to get over their insecurities. Men AND women will look at you/her and fantasize. I just have the balls to announce that I'm doing it.
To distill my life down into a simple explanation:
I want to be.
I want to try.
I want to explore.
That is the essence of who I am.
There are a number of prior posts that, when put together, describe me very well. They are tagged Cliff 101. The most important one is actually titled Cliff 101.
I've always thought it kind of silly to ask add me as a friend. Go ahead. Most of my stuff is public. If I don't want to read your journal I won't add you to my friends list. Simple. Amazing. That's how LJ is designed to work. Otherwise, you'd need to be approved for friendship the same way you get approved for membership to some communities.
I am no longer a poor, broke, starving, unemployed college student! I have a Real Job™ now! It's a rewarding job that leads me all across the country. I blog about where I go on my travels for work. However, since I want my parents to read it, I had to create it on another site. The LJ syndication quasi-community for my travel blog is klfjoat_travel. You can add that to keep up with my travels.
"I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I wan a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality the touchstone, the command, my pivot. I don’t mind working, holding my ground intellectually, artistically; but as a woman, oh, God, as a woman I want to be dominated. I don’t mind being told to stand on my own feet, not to cling -- all that I am capable of doing -- but I am going to be pursued, fucked, possessed by the will of a male at his time, his bidding." -- Anais Nin, "Incest: from 'A Journal of Love'"
If you are a woman who identifies with the above quote, please drop me a line! :-)